this is not a rhetorical question

[thanate]

What is wrong with our society that it's not considered socially acceptable to address your own interpersonal problems?

Please comment. All theories/tangential ideas welcome.

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[thanate.livejournal.com]

thanks. please do.

[fishy1.livejournal.com]

Because of unfortunate phrases like "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" that get imprinted far too heavily far too early. Thus critiquing/confronting other people is bad.

Also i blame the self-esteem (movement? concept?) thingy. "you are beautiful and shiny and gosh darn it, people like you, so why should you have to change anything or make any effort to accommodate others?"

A wee bit of self sufficiency/individualism: "I'm just doing my own thing and not bothering anyone, why are you bothering me? If everyone just did their own thing and didn't bother others, we'd get along fine.."

Suggestions for improvement or change are always criticisms in some mindsets.

People should be pleasant and kind to each other always (or at least in public)and not cause a disturbance.

Change is inherently threatening.

See also: Saving Face, Pride, Honor, Social Harmony Concepts.

I think i got pretty tangential there.. any help?