things to think about
Jul. 17th, 2012 01:06 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
thanateThere was a link to Michelle Sagara's lj on Making Light recently, which is actually the third time I've been pointed at her journal from somewhere else. (First something about "theory of mind," which is fascinating both as a cognitive development issue, and from the adult perspective as the idea that there was a time when your brain didn't seem like a private world; and later a reflection on not telling people what ways they should personally feel oppressed.) And she's been talking about parenting and how human relationships work and other things that are all very clever and relevant to things my brain is trying to work on right now. (and also the new apple retina screens, which is bad, because I really don't need a new laptop at present, but please do sign me up for the scaled good resolution...) Anyway, two particularly brilliant links:
Responsibility, fault, and blame which involves handling situations where all the options are bad, and dealing with fixing things that need to be fixed whether there's any fault to be assigned, and better phrasing for "oh you should just let that go" when the thing you'd like to be rid of is clinging to you like a limpet.
Love as endurance, part 2, about the difference (and the transition) between parent/child concepts of love, and the kind of love that works between adults. I wish I could go back and give this (and maybe a copy of I Capture the Castle) to my 14-year-old self, although I'm not sure she would have been ready to listen to it. But if nothing else, it's something to inform the "you can live happily ever after, but you're going to have to work on it" discussion.
...and on an entirely different note, have some pieced together bog mummies from National Geographic. Some of the writing is a bit unnecessarily sensational, but fascinating all the same.
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Responsibility, fault, and blame which involves handling situations where all the options are bad, and dealing with fixing things that need to be fixed whether there's any fault to be assigned, and better phrasing for "oh you should just let that go" when the thing you'd like to be rid of is clinging to you like a limpet.
Love as endurance, part 2, about the difference (and the transition) between parent/child concepts of love, and the kind of love that works between adults. I wish I could go back and give this (and maybe a copy of I Capture the Castle) to my 14-year-old self, although I'm not sure she would have been ready to listen to it. But if nothing else, it's something to inform the "you can live happily ever after, but you're going to have to work on it" discussion.
...and on an entirely different note, have some pieced together bog mummies from National Geographic. Some of the writing is a bit unnecessarily sensational, but fascinating all the same.
Xposty from dreamwidth.